NPR recently did a story regarding the effect Depression has on the entire family. This piece led to the discovery of an organization called “Families for Depression Awareness.”
Founded by a woman who’s brother committed suicide after several attempts to get him help, the organization is dedicated to raising depression awareness for family members. They encourage full family involvement in recovery which is something the Postpartum Dads Project also encourages.
One of the family profiles at Families for Depression Awareness centers around Postpartum Depression. You can read it by clicking here.
Whether it’s your wife or yourself struggling with depression after the birth of a child the two of you owe it to your child(ren) to heal and support the struggling partner. This enables your children to see your dedication to your partner and teaches them the invaluable lesson of not giving up when the going gets tough.
Please take a moment to check Families for Depression Awareness. Know that you are not part of the problem even if your wife is shouting, yelling, and arguing with you for no apparent reason. It’s the PPD talking. You are part of the solution. Offer to take the baby. Encourage her to take time for herself. Research about Postpartum Mood & Anxiety Disorders so you better understand what her world is looking like right now.
More than ever, your wife needs you front and center. Her world has crumbled around her and you are her rock. It’s ok for you to be quivering too. Let her know that. Most often I felt better when I knew my husband was struggling too. It let me know I wasn’t alone. I’m not suggesting you lie to her – just be honest about how things are going for you as you travel the long road back to recovery with her. Honest but not accusatory. Honest but not hateful. Honest but not spiteful. Honest and Compassionate. One day she will thank you. It may not be right now. It may not be tomorrow. But she will thank you down the road. And she may or may not cry while doing so.



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September 17, 2009 at 7:59 pm
Stacey
This is a fantastic piece, thank you!
September 18, 2009 at 10:10 am
MaryLouise Torres
This is an absolutely fabulous piece. I agree wholeheartedly that family should definitely be involved when depression affects one or more members. Family support definitely helps and is crucial for the recovery and survival of all affected. It was one of the reasons why I survived my PPD…my husband has been my rock—he was the one who pushed me to get help and my family has also been very supportive. In speaking out about women/men getting help…families should also be encouraged to get involved when they can see something is definitely wrong. Thank You again for this informative and compassionate piece!
September 18, 2009 at 10:59 pm
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September 18, 2009 at 11:04 pm
Christy the Mommy-Muse
Love this post! It’s at the top of my list on my weekly best of the web postpartum lineup:
Have you seen this week’s finest PPD blog posts? Keep the great writing coming!